Therapy Thursdays: Sometimes the Best Things in Life Are the Things You Don't Plan.

Exactly seven years ago today, I woke up extremely annoyed.  That night I was supposed to be going on a blind date. Truthfully, I was tired of getting set up on dates. Lately, everyone and their mama was trying to set me up and it was becoming super annoying and so uncomfortable. For 2005, one of my new years resolution was never to go on  a blind date again. But my friend kept insisting that I meet this guy. Apparently he was wickedly smart, funny and resembled The Rock. I'd heard all of that before (well except the Rock part) and wasn't too interested. But just to make my friend happy, I decided to go. That night I was meeting the guy in the city. An hour before the date was to begin, my roommate walked into the apartment. I was having a lazy day, still in my pajamas watching reruns of The Golden Girls. She asked me, "Aren't you supposed to be getting ready for your date?" I responded, "Girl, I"m pretty sure this will be nothing"  She said, "Stop thinking like that, this may be the best date ever. Get ready!" I shrugged my shoulders and continued to watch my fave girls: Rose, Dorothy, Blanche and Sophia. About 15 minutes later, I decided maybe I should get ready. So I threw on an old shirt and jeans, put my hair in a bun, and was about to leave but for some reason something told me to head back, change and actually try to look decent.  So I did.
Click below to read about my first date with Mr. Milly.

Getting Married

When I arrived at our meeting spot (30 minutes late) I didn't see this mystery man. (FYI, Mr Milly had wanted to pick me up at home, but since I didn't know him, I asked him to meet me at a public location.)  But then I turned around, and wooh!!! I was greeted by the most beautiful man I'd ever seen. My friend wasn't lying when he told me he resembled The Rock, but he was so much better. Same body too. Anyway, he smiled at me, and I almost melted.  To make a long story short, we had the best date ever. (Although Mr. Milly often tells me he didn't even know I liked him because I played it super cool.) After that amazing first date, I knew I could fall in love with him. We had way too much in common. He was super funny, and so brilliant, and come on, he looked like The Rock (my crush for years.). But I didn't want to fall in love. That wasn't in my plan for 2005.  2005 was the year where I focused on figuring out my path. So I decided to never call him again or take his calls. So he called me..and called me.....and called me, but I never picked up the phone. Believe me, It was super hard, but when I resolve to do something, I do it. Finally about a month later (he was persistent) he got me on the phone,  and we ended up  speaking for hours. At the end of our conversation, he asked if he could see me again.  I told him that I would prefer that we didn't. It wasn't in my plans to see anyone for 2005. He told me. "Sometimes the best things in life, are the things you don't plan." Seven years later today, married, and more in love than ever, I'd have to agree.

In life we all make plans for ourselves, whether it's in our career, in our personal lives, things that we say we will never do, or we will do, but sometimes the unexpected can happen. Maybe you'll meet someone that's totally not your type. Maybe a new opportunity will come your way that you're not too sure about. Don't automatically dismiss it or them, because in the end,  you may lose out on the best thing for you.

Happy Anniversary to my teddy bear.

Love you to pieces.

Thanks for showing me what love is.


Hugs,

Milly