Therapy Thursdays-Stop Living Your Life For Other People!

Hey loves, how are you. Mr. Milly was supposed to be posting his Six Things You Should Never Do On a First Date post, but he's late with it. I told him that if it's late next week, I won't be cooking dinner for a month. But today I want to talk about something that is one of the worst things you can do, and that's care what people think of you, and put others opinions over your own. Now before we begin, what are you drinking? I've got my white tea but unfortunately I drank most of it, so how about I offer you some pomegranate lemonade instead. Yum, that's Mr. Milly's favorite.

There was a time in my life when I pretty much based all of my decisions on what others would think of me, or I valued people's opinions over my own intuition-that was a rough time, and probably the time when I made the worst decisions of my life.   Click below to read more:




Looking back at it now, I regret it so much. YOU are the master of your life. YOU are in control of your destiny. YOU know yourself better than anyone. Don't let someones opinion of you determine your worth or shape your life.  If you want to do something, and your heart is telling you it's the best thing for you, then by all means  go after it. Believe me, putting someone else's thoughts of you or opinions higher than your own,  when it comes to your life, is a sure fire way to fail or end up just miserable. If I had been worried about others opinions of me, I'd never had started this blog. Everyone told me the blog market was over saturated, too many bloggers, no one would care about my point of view. I'm happy to say I feel starting this blog was one of the best things I've ever done, not because of the amount of readership I get but because of the friendships and connections I've made through it.  Also, if I'd listened to what others thought, I'd still be working in finance. When I first wanted to leave, I asked a lot of people I knew, for their opinions. Every single one of them told me I was dumb, I needed to get my head out of the clouds and for years, I stayed because well, I was scared what they would think of me when I left. But then one day I realized, these people aren't living my life, I AM. And although I cared about them, I was in control of my life, and when it came to my life, I knew me best, and my opinion of me should be the only one that really mattered, so I left my job a few weeks later, and have never been happier. And yes, I got called "dumb" "stupid" but in the end, I really could care less what anyone thought of me because I knew I was doing what was right for me. If you start valuing peoples opinions over your own, or start trying to please everybody, believe you me, you will be the only one miserable. When it comes to YOUR life, you can ask others for their opinions, but go with what YOU feel is right for YOU and stop worrying about what others think of you. Who cares if they don't like you or your decision? Guess what? Not everyone will like you in this world. Who cares if they think you're dumb, guess what,a lot of those same people that called me dumb, are some of my biggest supporters now. Don't worry about what others think of you when it comes to You. The only opinion that should really matter when it comes to you, is your own!  My abuela used to always say "unless you pay my bills, your opinion really doesn't matter." Abuela was so funny. Man I miss her.

Here's a great quote by Bill Cosby
I don't know the path to success, but I do know the quickest way to fail is to try to please everybody.

Remember that,

I don't think I'll be posting tomorrow, so have a great weekend.


Hugs,

Milly